I've seen many situations where people are made JC's without even closing a property only because they're good at talking to people and facilitating conversation. 4) Need to be trustworthy. 

You basically echoed my internal conversation.

Tell her to talk to her managing broker about it if she doesn't understand.  

There are a lot of real estate investing meetups in Northern NJ where you can meet other investors, talk about areas, and learn.

Also, beware that building in a location like that can be a very long process depending on where you're talking about.

We're all talking about the creative financing, asset-based lendings of the world right? 

Many lenders are using an internal construction loans to replace Homestyle, ChoiceReno, and 203k out of simplicity.

If you are not getting a response, it is possible they have no interest in talking to you about it.

International company NNN.  

Probably by talking to them for 5 minutes, besides that, they will probably ask and they can check to see if you are a registered mortgage entity in that state. :)