I don't care what peoples' opinions are.  

100%  Take the money while you won't pay taxes on it and simplify the plan while you are taking care of the kids.

If you plan to house hack, I recommend you not to expect any cash flow.Living with friends can work, but it's important to approach it carefully.

I don’t care what people think, maybe you do that’s why you calling my post a FB post.

I have found that careful tenant screening is critical.

To start, get pre-approved for a loan, search for multi-family homes, plan commute, consider property taxes, leverage healthcare income, and build a local network.Good luck!

Of course my Property Manager takes care of the units now but I do not think they do.

Currently, one of my long-term employees is on the brink of financial bankruptcy due to the significant health care costs associated with her teenage daughter’s severe mental health illness.

If you set up a "checkbook LLC" for your SDIRA, then I believe (check first with your custodian and/or attorney) that you would be able to invest directly as the manager of your LLC (using the LLC's account), without going through your custodian.On the other hand, that ability to quickly invest can be a double edged sword, since I think the delay can be a good thing (it forces me to think more carefully about the syndication and take the time to make sure it's a good investment for my SDIRA).

If they are not okay with that, either find someone who is or hire a runner that can take care of emergencies.