Not to mention that wholesaler may drop you from further deals—not saying they're worth anything, just positing the notion.

And I definitely wouldn't not let the notion that she is bluffing float around in your head. 

People on here tend to get protective, and rightfully so, of potential newbie investors who might misread your response and come away with the dangerous notion that they don't have to be so preoccupied with certain real expenses in a deal they are considering. 

It is completely irrelevant how many people agree with a notion, strategy, method or concept.

Circumstances are often overlooked by those who have preconceived notions about individuals they have never met. 

I agree with the general notion that there is NO SHAME in slowing down, especially in a situation like a divorce. 

This is a reoccurring theme in the world of real estate... my advice is to get used to this notion and have the thought process of continuing to speak with as many people as it takes to get the answer you are looking for.

And nowhere in the book is the notion that BRRRR is, indeed, a capital-intensive endeavor that requires easy access to significant contingency funding (as @Russell Brazil pointed out) questioned.They call the kind of places you're looking for "money pits" for a reason.

So as long as you hold this notion that you get to self define what is "normal", and the world is supposed to bend to making it so, yes, it will be an experience of consistent let-down and frustration because reality simply does not care your definition of things, nor any persons dictation. 

I currently own two rental properties, but neither property was bought with the notion that it would be rented out.