The way I countered this (still not as good as buying a note with idle cash but I have checkbook control) is the money paid out from a note fund I invested in is at Axos bank.

See what other controls they offer.  

And i found launch control but the minimum is $500 a month, but they use cross-referencing data across sources to find the most accurate contact information by using a person's name and address to find their phone number, real address and email by accessing public databases, phone number directories, credit reports, utility bils, public tax records, and social media profiles. this is waaay expensive for me as a beginner. what do you suggest or if anyone has any suggestion I'd greatly appreciate it.??

With so much out of our control with military orders, we were fortunate.

I am more likely to take a risk, but i suspect when my husband is out from under a controlling baby mama, he won’t mind a little risk either.I love Texas, try to vacation there often and my husband is aligned with Texas farm property as a ten year long term goal.I’m also passionate about the trades and if i could do it all again I’d be part owner of some kind of builder or remodeler or specialty trades business. 

I'm sure there are many more experiences where the contractor hasn't fulfilled their scope of work and gotten away with rushing the project to meet the deadline, And, I don't want to be as naive to say that I'm that 1% who can have complete quality/operational control, but I'm confident I can establish a system and hire independent inspectors to review the contractor's work. 

Also, check if they have skin in the game (their own money invested), as it shows they’re confident in the deal and aligned with your interests.If you’re considering alternatives, REITs are fantastic for super-passive investors who want steady, low-effort returns—usually about 2 points above a savings account—but you lose tax benefits and control.

I've worked with groups like Sands Investment Group, Hudson Edge LLC, and others, where I primarily analyzed industrial properties with long-term leases and high recent growth potential, alongside stable A-class multifamily properties with value-add opportunities.While many of the groups I've worked with are hesitant to relinquish control of their investments, my goal is to create a balanced yet diversified portfolio, focusing on high-growth industrial assets and value-add multifamily properties.

For practitioners in the real estate industry, the biggest challenge is not just the difficult work, high risks, or immense pressure, but the necessity to learn to let go of complete control over outcomes.

Installing thermostats with regulated heat control (we pay heat) 3.