If you're looking to eventually scale then I would suggest a Hard Money Lender.

@Jerryian Francois if you are still looking for a 203k lender try checking with @Jose Valdovinos!

i wouldn't tell you where you should move since i don't know you.also, a lender would be in the best position to advise whether you qualify for a specific loan. 

local PM and happy to help with connecting you with agents, contractors, lender etc. and running analysis on investment property.

Check with your lender to make sure you heard it correctly. 

I am looking forward to states requires all wholesalers to get their license, so that way I can get licensed and then I don't have to try to partner and jv with non serious wholesalers anymore. 

Since you're open to markets beyond NYC, you might want to connect with local investor meetups or REI groups in those areas to build relationships with agents, wholesalers, and lenders who understand the nuances of each market.If you're looking to break out of analysis paralysis, maybe start by narrowing down one or two target markets and running numbers on actual deals.

The lender that you were working with isn't funding deals. 

I would look into assets that are non-correlated to the stock market or real estate, as well as tax advantaged assets to help shelter your income. 

That's a lot more to chew on than most non-locals want to deal with, but for those of us here, there are good opportunities to be had.