Many people just transfer the deed and NOT notify the lender.

BP is a great place to definitely learn and connect with like-minded people. 

People are sending me colleague request and there’s not the button to push that used to be there. 

I haven't heard of any, but met with a few people in the twin cities last year.

I would not borrow from ANY lender I learned of over the internet unless I knwe personally people who had used them. 

Now here is some advice many will disagree with me on but I firmly committed to this:  Most people that use a VA loan shouldn't.  

These two contractors may not like that area, or just had one bad experience, so it would be great if you could explore more of what other experiences people had/have in the city. 

Typically these people are really forthcoming with info and can tell you.

I bring a list of the offers (if you have multiple offers), this gives you the base to tell the appraiser if it does not sell to this buyer other people think/want the house at this price too.Also, bring permits for anything that has been done.

They can also make sure that your case is scheduled promptly because again, they know people and know how to get things done within the judicial system, which can be confusing on a good day.