All three of these markets are great, so you can't go wrong investing in any of them.

Sounds like selected the wrong management company that was gun shy and cost you a lot of money.

You call people mean, angry, or aggressive for giving you advice that isn't what you want to hear.Too few people think their sense of self is not a big part of their real estate investing future, but they are wrong.

They paper push the file into processing to then find out they submitted wrong or it does not fit under a certain program.

We would each flip our basements and STR or MTR 1st floor and we would live in our basements of the SFH.By year 3 we hope to each own 2 duplexes.I would prefer single family homes I may be wrong but does single family appreciate better than duplexes?

I'm afraid this wrong vehicle will not get you to your goals either since you are not planning on running active business with it. 

It’s worth the investment—placing the wrong tenant can cost you much more in the long run if you have to deal with evictions or non-payment.It’s about finding the right balance for your needs, but in my experience, having some professional oversight can save you a lot of headaches down the road.

Im thinking of this too, what's wrong with just buying commercial land.

I thought we were alright, but was wrong.

Nothing wrong with buy and hold.