While the bank doesn't know my investing goals or care that my plan it to pay it off quickly, when they just see that I "cash flow" a mere $50 a month and my taxes say I lost money on it, they get scared. 

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financials, rent roll, tax returns....Thanks,Mary

You may also want to consider an IRA LLC or a Solo 401k.Following are the similarities and differences between the solo 401k and the self-directed IRA.The Self-Directed IRA and Solo 401k Similarities Both were created by congress for individuals to save for retirement;Both may be invested in alternative investments such as real estate, precious metals tax liens, promissory notes, private company shares, and stocks and mutual funds, to name a few;Both allow for Roth contributions;Both are subject to prohibited transaction rules;Both are subject to federal taxes at time of distribution;Both allow for checkbook control for placing alternative investments;Both may be invested in annuities;Both are protected from creditors;Both allow for nondeductible contributions andBoth are prohibited from investing in assets listed under I.R.C. 408(m).The Self-Directed IRA and Solo 401k DifferencesIn order to open a solo 401k, self-employment, whether on a part-time or full-time basis, is required;To open a self-directed IRA, self-employment income is not required;In order to gain IRA checkbook control over the self-directed IRA funds, a limited liability company (IRA LLC) must be utilized;The solo 401k allows for checkbook control from the onset;The solo 401k allows for personal loan known as a solo 401k loan;It is prohibited to borrow from your IRA;The Solo 401k may be invested in life insurance;The self-directed IRA may not be invested in life insurance;The solo 401k allow for high contribution amounts (for 2016; the solo 401k contribution limit is $53,000, whereas the self-directed IRA contribution limit is $5,500);The solo 401k business owner can serve as trustee of the solo 401k;The self-directed IRA participant/owner may not serve as trustee or custodian of her IRA; instead, a trust company or bank institution is required;When distributions commence from the solo 401k a mandatory 20% of federal taxes must be withheld from each distribution and submitted electronically to the IRS by the 15th of the month following the date of each distribution;Rollovers and/or transfers from IRAs or qualified plans (e.g., former employer 401k) to a solo 401k are not reported on Form 5498, but rather on Form 5500-EZ, but only if the air market value of the solo 401k exceeds $250K as of the end of the plan year (generally 12/31);When funds are rolled over or transferred from an IRA or 401k to a self-directed IRA, the amount deposited into the self-directed IRA is reported on Form 5498 by the receiving self-directed IRA custodian by May of the year following the rollover/transfer.Rollovers (provided the 60 day rollover window is satisfied) from an IRA to a Solo 401k or self-directed IRA are reported on lines 15a and 15b of Form 1040;Pre-tax IRA contributions on reported on line 32 of Form 1040;Pre-tax solo 401k contributions are reported on line 28 of Form 1040;Roth solo 401k funds are subject to RMDs;A Roth 401k may be transferred to a Roth IRA (Note that from a planning perspective, it may be advantageous to transfer Roth Solo 401k funds to a Roth IRA before turning age 70 ½ in order to escape the Roth RMD requirement applicable to Roth 401k contributions including Roth Solo 401k contributions and earnings.)

Assuming 25% of income for rent, which is probably low for what most people actually pay, you are talking about a resident earning between $26,000 and $30,000 before taxes.  

In addition, the property tax rates in the state are some of the lowest around, which makes a big difference. 

I also have access to leads such as expired listing, probate, tax default, NOD, Absentee owners, and etc.

I know I can't write off the lost income, i.e. if it'd rent for $2,000 a month, and I donate the use of it to the church, I can't write of the $2,000 as a charitable gift.I know if I just treat it as a 2nd home, I can write off the mortgage interest and property taxes, but how do I set it up so I can write off the entire mortgage, insurance, utilities, etc?  

Find out the taxes for the year.  

What I keep finding out is that my target price is always at least 20% below seller's asking price.Here are my rules/metrics:total economic loss after property is stable is 12% (15% in lower quality areas)incremental rent growth after the property is stable is 2%expenses grow by 2%/yearproperty tax is 90% of the purchase price multiplied by a local tax rate (usually doubles tax from whatever seller pays)payroll $1000-1200/unit regardless of the property size (brokers claim that 30-units don't need payroll but I don't believe them :-) )reserves of $300/unit counted in expensesexit cap rate is 100 basis points higher than current cap rate (e.g. exit at 8% if current cap rate is 7%)cash-on-cash ROI 10%+ starting in the second year; first year may be lower if this is a value-add5 years total ROI (assuming sale) is at least 100%IRR 15%+ over 5 years (al ROIs are net to investors after 20% sponsor override)I can adjust may metrics to some degree but in order for me to get to the seller's acceptable price I have to adjust most or all of them to unsustainable levels.So, what should I do other than keep underwriting and waiting until the market turns down and all of a sudden my numbers would make sense for a seller?