@Tyler Garza I can tell you what would probably be the most helpful thing, but most wives are not on board with it. I shared the concept with all of my friends, and not one of them did it. But this is what you do:
Get yourself on a bunch of wholesale lists and start looking at deals as they come to your email. Get familiar with price points in your market and what looks like a good deal.
Start networking with other investors to increase your access to real estate deals.
Put your house on the market yourself on Zillow and Facebook marketplace and see if you can sell it yourself as a seller finance deal on what is called a wrap mortgage; especially if you have a low interest. Ask for a 70k payment and give them an interest rate that is 1 point higher than yours. For example, if your rate is 4% then give them a rate of 5%. They will be really happy because they can get into a house with a lower mortgage and you don't have to pay realtor fees. Because you don't use a realtor because most realtors have no idea what to wrap mortgage is. You can make the mortgage Have a balloon payment in 2 1/2 years so that you don't miss out on the IRS tax exemption rule of living in your primary home two of the last five years. Unless you're OK with paying taxes on the property eventually. Then you can just let it write out the whole length of your mortgage. You'll create cash flow every month and then at the end you'll get another bump of $40,000 or more depending on your loan amortization schedule.
With the 70k down payment buy a house from wholesaler with a hard money loan that is well below market value. Work with the hard money lender on the terms of the loan so you can get a 90% loan and the hard money lender will reimburse you for the rehab costs.
You may need to have a family member or friend be the actual one on the hard money loan because there are stipulations with a lot of Hard Money Lender that they can't lend on a primary residence. If that is the case, then just have somebody else be on the loan with Hard Money Lender And then after you close on the property then add your name on title. You'll likely have to have your name on title for six months before you can refinance the property.
This way, your spouse can pick and choose the type of finishes that your spouse would like and then when you're done finishing the rehab in six months you can get the home refinanced and pay your family member or friend a couple thousand dollars for their willingness to be on the loan.
When you refinance the property, you can likely get a lot of that $70,000 back If you bought the property well below market value. And possibly even more money back if you did some of the work yourselves.
So now you have a new home that you're living in that has probably 25% equity in it, you have a cash flowing seller financed property with no maintenance because you've sold it on seller financing and they're going to be taken care of the property because it is their property but yet you still benefit from cash flow because you are the bank. And you still have $70,000 to go buy a single-family home or multifamily home, and now that you're on a bunch of wholesale lists where you can source deals well under market value it is easier to find good deals.