@Bret Rubash There are things you can do that can help you to accomplish both your real estate goals and finding employment. As @Christopher Blanco stated above, it definitely sounds like you need to get your financial house in order. If I imagine myself in your shoes, finding steady employment/ a steady source of income would be my top priority. I do realize you have the added challenge of caring for your disabled Mother.
One avenue I would utilize to accomplish both your real estate goals and finding employment is attending as many networking events as time and money (they are not all free) allow. You can find networking events via a Google search such as "networking events Fort Wayne" or a site such as meetup.com. You can maximize your potential at these events by reading a book called "Knock Out Networking" by Michael Goldberg. This book will help you to develop your elevator pitch and really focus your mindset on asking others great questions to build both personal and business relationships. I know this post does not answer the question of whether or not it is possible to go from zero to hero, but it certainly can help you to accomplish this goal.
Good luck and best wishes!