Wow. I dont know where to start. @Greg Hiban , we've read Dave Ramsey and prior to investing in real estate, we followed some of his teachings and my husband and I both had <$1000 in credit card debt. Regardless, its no excuse to have gotten this much debt and we dont plan on doing it again. I also believe there is more than one school of thought.
@Brian Matthews We are definately not buying real estate for the sake of buying real estate. Who does that? Of course when we got into this the goal was to make money and it still is. That is why I dont want one bad deal to stop me completely. I feel like you are saying, "You're broke. Go crawl in a hole and die." This is precisely why I posed the question here. I know I am not the only person with a flip that didnt sell or a rental that doesnt cash flow.
I was just looking for some advise or insight as to how someone has recovered from this.
BTW I haven't declared bankruptcy and dont plan to.