Update:
I decided to continue and try to do the deal. I was able to convince one of my friends who has been attending meetups with me to partner up and split the financial costs 50/50 (and profits 50/50). That drastically lessens my burden and makes it not as much of a risk even though i make much less. However Fannie Mae is trying to renegotiate the purchase price of the deal so we will see what happens.
I did however learn a lot from this conundrum. It taught me to approach private investors and talk to them about what i do. I have someone else who is ready to bring 30-40k to partner with me on another deal. I am almost getting to the point where i have more money than deals and have yet to finish my first actual flip. :)
I am getting the vibe that taking action is the catalyst. Even without a flip under my belt, others seem to want to partner with me because of how much i have bought in the buy and hold space with my own money (not much compared to the pros on here). The fact that i have my own money in the deals and am not asking them to finance 100% and that i have an experienced construction partner seems to help also.
I just need to learn how to close private investors. I have another friend that was 80% there to loaning me private funds but he backed out at the last minute. He is too scared and wants to leave his money in the stock market. I need to learn how to overcome those objections.
All in all its been a great learning experience.