Quote from @Beth Johnson:
@Nick Militello
Personally, I think money and family can get complicated but I've also done the same thing when I got started. A few things you should do to prepare yourself is learn about how to set up and safeguard a private money loan from a lender perspective. If your family sees that you are both knowledgeable and interested in protecting their capital investment, they will believe in you and your intentions more.
Secondly, do the proper paperwork /presentation about your investing strategy and potential project /property so that you can go into the discussions prepared. We often make more assumptions when it comes to personal relationships but business is business so go into it that way. Documentation is critical to cover any of the what-ifs scenarios that could happen and strain relationships, if not discussed and written down in advance.
Find an attorney to help draw up paperwork so that it's done the right way for both parties involved. I have a few blog posts on BP about the subject and what to do that may be helpful.
Beth and
Thank you for your advice. In January 2017 I used a private loan from my Mother and I had done all of your suggested safety measures. It worked out just fine and this upcoming venture will be my third time using money borrowed from friends and family. I have secured a lawyer who will setup the contracts and record the mortgage when settlement comes. I asked the lawyer to help create a document that I can return back to for future private investors in my future and reduce ongoing legal expenses. The legal fee for his work will be $1750 in the greater Philadelphia area.
Getting the lenders was easier than I thought. I was literally talking through my development ideas with my RE Agent and she offered to be an investor. The second time she suggested participating, I engaged her more fully and she has become my primary investor with my most recent project. In truth, she wasn't my RE agent at first, I was the housekeeper that she hired to clean out rental units that belonged to her clients. She grew to like me and impressed I seemed to know what I was talking about. Now I just have to prove her right!