First of all, are they a Realtor or just a real estate agent?
Do they understand that wholesaling is legal in CA? Does their broker know it's legal?
Many don't even though the head lawyer for the National Association of Realtors says it's legal: https://www.nar.realtor/window...
And I'm not suggesting that they don't. I'm just warning you that that is a common response from Realtors and real estate agents.
Now, I've wholesaled in California and have not found it to be as heavily regulated as real estate agents, who get pissed at wholesalers because they don't actually understand it, claim that it is except for the real estate agents themselves.
They think that wholesalers are basically stealing business while they went through all of the training and testing to get their license. But they could benefit from wholesaling in two ways (and that license gives them advantages as well.)
First, they can team up with people like you and build their business around investors. I know two great real estate agents here in San Diego that do just that. Each of them makes over $250K per year (in addition to being investors themselves) and they spend much less time than other agents make a fraction of what they do.
Second, they basically get referrals from wholesalers to help the wholesaler's client buy the house from the sellers. The wholesaler assigns the contract to the investor who needs help dealing with all of the paperwork and, more importantly, they need someone to help them sell the property or rent it out.
I work with a lot of Realtors and I encourage them to work with investors because they can make almost twice as much in commissions by essentially acting as a wholesaler.
Basically, they help investors find deals just as a wholesaler would but, instead of assigning a contract, they just simply help negotiate the deal for their client. When their client buys the property at say 70% ARV, they get their first commission. Then when their client sells, they get a second commission. Or they might help their client rent the property and get smaller recurring commissions.
In the first example, they might help their client find and buy a property with a $500K ARV for $350K. For this deal, they would make about $7500 in commission (3% of $350K) when they get the deal for their client and another $15K (3% of $500K) when their client sells. Plus, they get repeat business.
But most real estate agents don't do this. They just complain about wholesalers and fight for business from other agents to get that one $15K commission. (Right now, there are more real estate agents than there are properties available if you can believe that.)
Now, your right that THEY cannot split commissions (technically, you can split with them but they can't split with you.) That's illegal in just about every state. But you can simply switch off who gets each deal. You get one. They get one. You get one. They get one. And you both keep 100% of every other deal.
HOWEVER! HOWEVER! HOWEVER! TWO THINGS...
If you became friends before getting into real estate, I'd highly recommend not working with them. You know the axiom about doing business with friends and family, right?
It backfires way more than it works out because I've found that friends and family always want you to give them more for less. Plus, our friends tend to be similar to us and so you get business partners that are both good and bad at the same things when a business needs partners that good at things that their partner is not.
I get the sense that this desire to partner with someone is because you fear your lack of experience. If that's the case, I can tell you
And you might be interested in my answer that I gave on this post: https://www.biggerpockets.com/...