Loki,
Consider your area vs. mine before you state what is true and what isn't.
Different markets call for different procedures. Portland's market is not as bad as most. Therefore, banks want to see homes on the RMLS, with a listing history before they consider a short sale. Believe me, I have quite a few going right now....and if you look at the FSBO lists vs. the RMLS listings tagged for short sales...you will see, in the histories, that the homes start out well above what they owe and eventually drop to the short sale point...and then they list as a short sale in the RMLS.
I agree that you can do a short sale without listing on the RMLS...I said MOST banks require it.
I am confused how a bank would step in and offer to sell the property...banks don't sell properties unless they own them in REO. They would prefer the homeowner cure the default and have a performing note then selling short.
Plus, in Oregon, any home in short sale can accept multiple offers. Therefore, the bank can hold out for higher offers even though the seller has already signed off on one. Short sales here are a pain.
Furthermore...deficiency JUDGMENTS are for Judicial Foreclosures and only occur when the homeowner is foreclosed on via the court system and not trustee's sale. Then again, these laws depend on the state.
When a short sale occurs there is no judgment against the borrower...if the lender sells short they may require the homeowner to sign a "Promissory Note" for the difference...if the homeowner refuses, then the lender can kill the deal.