All Forum Posts by: Mike Shemp

@Rick Pozos - My wife and I know what you mean about "if she wants to".  This slimeball did quite a number on her mentally and was at a place where the verbal and physical abuse was being normalized (in her mind).  We believe that last night she woke up from her prior way of thinking.  

Couldn't agree more with you about the violence.  She was battling this on her own before last night, so could only imagine from her perspective how lonely it must have felt.  My wife and I are giving her all this advice today to help get him out of her life.

Thank you for taking the time to respond.  It is truly appreciated.

Mike

@Bruce Woodruff - My wife and I couldn't agree more.  Not reporting it when it first happened was clearly the wrong decision by my SIL.  I have a hard time understanding that one myself, but my SIL was also in a bad place from what I understand where she wasn't thinking very highly of herself.  From what my wife said all of that ended last night.  We're both going to take your advice and everyone elses and help her get away from this creep asap.

Thank you for taking the time to respond.  It is truly appreciated.

Mike

@Jevon Shaw - Thank you very much for your response!  My SIL was smart enough to take pictures of herself, and she still had medical receipts from the hospital.  Going to take your suggestions and others and see if we can help her put that to good use to get it stopped asap.  Thank you again for responding.  It is greatly appreciated.

@Theresa Harris - Thank you so much for taking the time to respond.  She is working on getting out as soon as possible.  Apparently this has been happening for so long to my SIL that he had led her to believe she was the crazy one, and that this kind of behavior is normal.  My wife stepped in last night and blew that all apart and gave my SIL the support she needed.  

My SIL took pictures of the wounds (cut on head, swollen eye, etc) and does have the medical bills.  I'll definitely suggest to her that she gather all this stuff up to make a case for a restraining order if he is not willing to leave on his own.  Thank you for the advice.  Truly appreciated.

Mike

I would consider getting rid of the property manager, and instead hire a local handyman to walk through the property each week or month depending on your level of comfort and risk.

All things being equal, I want someone walking through my property who gets paid when they find things, as they are incentivized to find problems.  I'd rather they find it than a guest.  Facebook groups are filled with stories of people with absent PMs with regards to maintenance items.  

Hope that helps.

Mike

Hello BP Community,

I will try and keep this post as short as I can, but ultimately I'm looking to ask the landlord and legal experts in this community about any advice that can be given to my sister-in-law about the situation she is in.

She lives in Newbern, NC in a SFH that she rents and is in a lease until April 2024. She is living with her ex-boyfriend who pays half the rent, but is not on the lease. My wife went to visit her this weekend, and found out that her boyfriend has been verbally and physically abusing her: he swung his pants at her and the belt buckle hit her in the head and she required 4 stitiches, he threw a glass bottle at her and gave her a black eye to the point where it was swelled shut, and has also slapped her on multiple occasions. Cops have been called to the residence in the past from neighbors due to the arguing. Lasst night while my wife was visiting, he became verbally abusive and tried pushing his way into the bedroom as they were trying to close the door, and the cops came again. One thing to note is that my sister-in-law has not reported the physical abuse to anyone other than may wife (as of last night) as she has been afraid to tell anyone. She did not even tell the cops last night when they came, and only told my wife after the cops left.

My advice to my sister-in-law was to contact the property manager immediately.  Explain to them that your roommate has been physically abusive to you on multiple occasions, and that that based on this you would like to get out of the lease immediately.

Is there anything else she should, or could be doing to get out of this lease as fast as possible?   Other than the obvious of moving out as soon as she can, calling the police if her roomate/ex-boyfriend so much as raises his voice while they are still living together, my wife and I would appreciate an advice the landlords and lawyers may have to give.

Thank you for reading.

Mike

Outer Banks Cottage is almost sold out until November.

White Mountains cabins a little slower than last year, but still booking.

Mike

It may be helpful to keep these questions in mind when house hunting for a STR:

1. What kind of guests do I want to accommodate? Families? Large families and family reunions? Couples? Solo adventurers? Traveling nurses? Tourists? Corporate people?

2. With the property I like, what unfair advantage does it have over other properties in the market?  What is the one thing it has that makes it special?  If it doesn't have one, can I create one?

3. Is there anything about this property I like that guests might not like? Is there a way to fix it, reduce it, mitigate it, etc?

I think once you get clear on the kind of property you want, and type of guests you want to accommodate, you can then start into the due diligence of revenue and expenses to see if it's a good investment or not.

Hope that helps.

Mike

I use the brute force method and manually added them to the sites.

I use automaton to update them so they are recently updated.

Mike