@David Espana, I like @Sunny Shakhawala's suggestion to buy the property yourself (if you have the means) in order to take control. However, I might suggest a side-door approach.
You could probably buy the 1st position lien from the lender for well-below payoff. Notes routinely sell at a discount to the unpaid balance and a loan with no payment history that has documented project issues on a property that isn't selling seems ripe for a strong discount. The first lien holder, if they are aware of the situation, probably wants out just as much as you do.
In addition to the discount off the st lien payoff, you would also not have to come up with the money necessary to payoff your SDIRA's 2nd lien because you wouldn't be buying the house, just the note. If you did buy the house you couldn't take it subject to the 2nd lien because you would then have a loan from your IRA which isn't allowed. But, so far as I know, you investing in a note on a property while your SDIRA holds a completely different note on that property would not be a prohibited transaction. *ABSOLUTELY consult a tax professional on that point*
Once you own both notes, you are at the very least in control. At that point you could perhaps negotiate a loan modification with the borrower that reduces principle in exchange for a shortened term. That would force him to sell for less in order to sell faster and the principle reduction wouldn't hurt you because of the discount you'd bought the note for.
If that failed, you could negotiate a deed-in-lieu which would cost pennies on the dollar vs a foreclosure. Although that might get you back into prohibited transaction territory.
Or, here's an idea. Once you own both notes, negotiate a short-sale basically with yourself wherein you personally agree to buy the property from the borrower for the payoff amount of the SDIRA's 2nd lien plus $1 if the borrowers 1st lien holder (now you) will agree to take $1 for the payoff and release the lien (to which you s the lien holder would agree). That way:
- your SDIRA is made whole
- there s no prohibited transaction between you and your SDIRA
- the borrower doesn't benefit from his failed flip but loses only his investment and can't refuse to come up with additional payoff money
- you get ownership of the house for a total investment of a) the original SDIRA loan amount plus b) whatever discounted price you had paid to the 1st lien holder.
- You could then either sell it yourself or hold it for rental and sell at a better time
This is, of course, based on many assumptions that may not be true, not the least of which is your capacity to buy the note. I don't think there is any magic way to turn this loss into a gain but perhaps a way to minimize the loss, take the loss against taxable money instead of in your IRA and perhaps let time and rent checks erase some of the loss.
Also, I am learning about notes but have never actually invested in one and I have a whole one rental and zero flips in my experience so treat all my advice accordingly.