Hi Becca,
If you don't mind a question : What was the driver to purchase the Indy SFR's that are cash flow negative? Too good to pass up?
If you can ride it out for 5 years (60 months at $200 month negative cash flow x 2 properties = $24k cost to hold on!) you'll increase rents and an opportunity to refi at a lower rate. Is it worth spending the extra $24k to you to keep these in your portfolio for 5 years?
The only reason I'd suggest holding on a bit longer with your Indy SFR's is you already paid the transaction costs to get into those deals. You'd have to pay those transaction costs again when you sell, plus hopefully incur some capital gains (profits!). If you can let your appreciation tree grow a bit your returns will be better should you choose to sell down the road.
If you can rework the numbers (raise rent a little each year) and get to net positive, the appreciation will come. Getting the debt service covered is vital each month.
Working a W2 position, investing in Real Estate and being a mom is lot! I respect the pressure you're putting on yourself, but take a step back and look at what you've managed to accomplish. You have a real estate portfolio that will allow you make some great choices for you, your family and kids future.
It sounds like your plan to have your SF area SFR cash flow at $2k per month is the biggest bucks for the bang (of the hammer). If you put that plan into effect will the cash flow off set your Indy properties monthly loss until rates drop a bit or you're able to raise rents?
I don't envy having family as tenants. That makes each decision more difficult and tends to change your lens from RE investor to "giving my family a good deal." While noble, it allows you to not fully maximize your returns of your REI portfolio.
What you've achieved is amazing, so drink that in.