Originally posted by @Matthew Fassett:
Question for all of you who think certain areas are so judgmental. Have you ever stopped and thought. Hmmmm maybe I’m the one that’s being judgmental about these people and they really aren’t being judgmental towards me at all? Maybe this is a story I’m telling myself to make me feel better of my own insecurities?
Yes, I can say that some times I've wondered if it's my own perception.
However, when there are blatant comments and not just innuendos that's how I know the difference.
Being told my child can't play because she isn't a part of a church ward mind you this was a mother my child is 2, how I'm clearly not a member or active member because I have a child out of wedlock, how I couldn't be hired to a unit because I wouldn't fit in as it was a predominantly married female lds and they were looking for someone who would fit in with current staff, this was after being asked if I had kids oh what does your husband do, oh so you're a single mom.... that's judgement, discrimination, and hate.
Wondering if the group of moms will care if I sit with them at a park? That's insecurity.
I live in an area where I'm encouraged, supported, and value. For tenacity, independence, and intelligent mind.
There will be people anywhere you go who judge, have bias, or are just crappy people.
You can always choose how to take things. I take them with a grain of salt, find the humor or good in it, or I ignore it.
I choose to live in a forward, progressive, activist community.