Quote from @Stephanie P.:
Probably not what you want to hear, but I wouldn't buy where you're looking or I would do a lot more research to find lower priced properties. The main reason is you're going to be way over leveraged on your primary residence (since you're debt ratio will be 50% of your gross earnings) and that doesn't make for a happy marriage considering it's your "forever" home and stress from debt is a killer.
Try this: Go to some REIA's and Meet ups in your area. Get a better feel for what's really out there. Find a hard money lender and meet investors that use him/her and then find a property that needs a little rehab that you can flip. Do it. Don't hold it, but cash it in. Then do it again. Once you do that a couple of times and you made money, your wife will be fully vested and you can use the equity line with confidence for multi family properties or more flips where you're the bank.
Fortunately I have my wifes full support to leverage our house as long as the numbers all make sense. I hear what you are saying and I am totally open to all options. I just want my foot in the door and to start this journey. I am also not afraid of risk, I see it as opportunity as long as it is taken carefully and calculated. We currently have about 100k in equity and I would like to use about half of that as funding for our first investment.
One option we are looking at after some advice from above is the DSCR loan. I have found a couple properties that may be good candidates for this option and even with current rates that I was quoted from my lender, would cash flow. Im not banking on rates coming down soon but if and when they do that will only help. However, when I factor in my monthly HELOC payments of about 500$ a month of IO it puts us in a negative cash flow of around 200$ With my current job I can support that amount and have the HELOC paid off in 3 years which brings us to a positive cash flow. Maybe by then, rates will have come down enough we can refi and be sitting in a good place with solid monthly cashflow.
The other option I am looking at, is as you suggested finding a good rehab deal and get Hard money to finance the purchase. I will have to shop around for other lenders because the one I spoke with wanted 20% down AND only covered the purchase leaving us on the hook for rehab funding. That brings me back to leveraging my equity to pay for the rehab. The risk I see with this is if we see a further decline in new listing prices and rates have still not come down, we will be holding a big bag that is burning a hole in our pockets quickly and no cash flow to cover any expenses. I know this is all a big IF but I like to look at tail risk and be prepared for a worst-case scenario l especially in our current environment.