Greetings everyone
I realize it has been a while since I responded to this, and I thought I should follow up. From my perspective, the situation keeps getting stranger and stranger, and I think that my judgment is being clouded by the fact that it is hard now for me to trust the tenant anymore. I will do my best to see what I can explain here, and maybe somebody in my area can help me out. I am in touch with a property management company as well, but it seems that a lot of them don't want to step in when there is already a difficult situation
I found an attorney recommended through a friend on bigger pockets. The attorney has counseled me that the tenant retains his right to stay in the property. His ex-girlfriend testified to the police that she left because he was hitting her repeatedly and she feared for her own safety and the safety of her daughter. The police also told me that he was lying about his suicide attempt, until they showed him the physical evidence, and then he admitted it. When I asked for the police report they told me that they were going to redact all of that out. Because of that, there is no evidence of any of it, and he can simply ledge that it was an accident. In order for an act to be "outragious in the extreme," which would be grounds for eviction for cause, it has to be on purpose.
About three weeks ago, the tenant asked me my preference, and I said I thought it would be better if they left. She couldn't wait to get out, and didn't even bother to send me notice. She could've gotten out of the lease sooner if she wrote me a letter with a qualified third-party testifying that there was domestic abuse, but she didn't even do that. At the time he was in Iowa, and he came back about a week sooner than he said he was going to originally, apparently to move his stuff out and throw away some leftover junk.
Up to this point, it has looked as though he was going to move out, but now he is saying that it is hard for him to find housing. He is living on an income of between 2600 and 4000 per month which seems to me like it would be enough. A couple days ago when he told me about his income, he made it sound like he could live there just fine on his own, except now he is telling me that he needs a roommate. He says that in order to have enough money to move by October, when the lease finally ends, he needs to be able to have the extra savings.
Up to this point, I have been trying to give him his space in hopes that he would move out. I told him that they could have their deposit back in full if he would just leave it in the condition that it is. That might've been a mistake.
On one hand, I would only be adding a roommate by addendum to the existing contract, which expires in five months, and they would be jointly and separately responsible for the rent. The damage to the building is already done regarding the carpets, and possibly paint on the walls which need to be replaced because of all the blood, So what is the big deal if I wait five months before having to do all that work. On the other hand, somebody, who is on his side not mine, would be moving in, and do I really want to give him and his friends more rights to the property than they already have.
And of course he is trying to explain that it would make it easier for him to move if you were able to save an extra $400 per month for a while, given all the money that he lost in the separation. Yes I know… Textbook example of tenants trying to make their problems yours.
It seems like if he had just had a break up, this request would not seem so unusual. But I realize that I am at the point where I can't trust him anymore.
How would you navigate a situation like this? Have any of you ever had to be forced to negotiate with the tenant who had legal rights to the property, but who you couldn't trust? That must be something that happens sometimes, and you just have to hold your tongue maybe. Thoughts? Of course there is the extra problem with the fact that he lives next door. If I were on the other side of town, I might have some peace of mind at least as to my own safety, but I feel like my decisions as a property manager are definitely influenced by that personal desire of self-preservation.