So I'll give the unpopular, but much needed aspect of this conversation. You said it earlier when you said " my money, well ours legally". This is an extremely dangerous way to build a business. We say all the time to treat your Real Estate deals as a business, then why would you build something up and give one person the big red button to nuke it whenever they feel like it. Ultimately the judges in this wonderful country get the choice to do as they please when it comes to divorces, but you can take measures to protect yourself.
My suggestions after learning the hard way. Establish a corporation with anonymity in WY or NV. (I recommend Anderson Law Firm for this). Establish a bank account in that state and pay yourself a salary from your corporation listing yourself as Pres and 100% shareholder. If your wife works with you then have the corporation hire her on a W-2 salary. Be very careful not to commingle money from personal to corporate accounts.
This doesn't have to be offensive or mean to your spouse. There are a lot of other benefits to this such as taxes, protection from law suit, title issues, numbers tracking etc. The worst thing anyone can do in life and business is to assume the statistics don't apply to them and they are somehow exempt. Best of luck!