Thanks for the advice @Jon Holdman I will take it into serious consideration. I'm just starting out investing so I know I have a lot to learn. I do not have credit reports, social security numbers or 1003 credit applications on the people I have invested with. I know who they are, I know where they live, I know their friends and associates, I know how to find them. Could they skip town, never to be seen again, of course. But if they ever want to get involved in real estate in this area again the word will get around. I guess I need to keep my fingers crossed that these first few deals work out and then get an attorney to create my own trust deeds and promissory notes with personal guarantees included. I like your suggestion of not putting more than 10% of my nest egg with any one person. With only 6 deals that's hard to do but going forward I will try to split it up that way.
The OP is about becoming a hard money lender, which I suppose is almost always in first position so I understand where the recommendation to always lend in 1st position comes from. I'm just a private lender and it seems there are lots of people willing to lend in 2nd position. They would all be subject the same concerns that you laid out earlier. Your comment "with any loan your FIRST consideration should be getting paid back if something goes wrong", would that be accomplished by getting a personal guarantee? If not, how would a 2nd position lender consider getting paid back? Or is it like I said, a numbers game?