@Lee Whitford
My evolution went something like this:
Once I had a decent rhythm for stabilizing my single families, I decided to pivot and figured an online event was a good first step. I looked up "multifamily event" and picked the first one that popped up on Google. I paid $100, attended a two-day Zoom session, and took a lot of notes. The event offered a $25k mastermind to get taught multifamily but... I had a bit of a chip on my shoulder so I made the decision to go about it my own way.
I reached out to a few of the attendees afterwards, finding more people on Facebook + Linkedin and asked for intro calls. I offered to underwrite for free on every Zoom call and discovered that most people would gladly promise a small portion of equity for it. In hindsight there was no way I was going to close a deal with randoms who also had little experience but it was a start.
I wasn't satisfied with Zoom calls so I decided to attend an in-person event. Again, I looked around and just picked an event. I paid $1,000 for the event ticket despite knowing absolutely no one but I knew it had to be done; I printed some business cards and committed to meeting new people. The event had a Shark Tank portion that allowed participants to present in front of well-known investors and I volunteered. As an aside - this wasn't a walk in the park for me. I'm a hard introvert so I hate attending events and abhor presenting but... again, I knew I had to get noticed. I spent a week practicing my pitch, prepared a one-sheeter, and presented. The deal itself was mediocre and I was the only presenter who was a complete newbie but... I made an impression. I tried to be relaxed and mildly funny, my one-sheeter looked fantastic in comparison to the rest, and afterwards a lot of people wanted to chat.
That first event was the spark I needed. I found a group at the event that needed an underwriter. They were hesitant at first but they were mildly impressed by my boldness to present so they gave me a shot. I spent another X hundred hours underwriting for free but this group had access to another experienced underwriter through their mastermind who would check my work (I am not in this mastermind). I hopped on dozens of calls with him through which I refined my UWing process. Access to someone with genuine experience allowed me to download a ton of real-world knowledge in a short amount of time. It's not what I was expecting but I ended up getting 1-on-1 underwriting coaching for free.
I didn't want to be a mere "employee" so I kept looking for others to potentially partner with. I eventually met Jay over a Zoom call based on a recommendation from another investor (I had never stopped doing this). We got along, met in-person at MM4, and I decided to take a risk by flying to Cincinnati on my own dime and spent a week hanging out with Jay - looking at deals, meeting other investors, bonding while we drove around. Jay and I got along incredibly well and I also provided value for his gaps - I could underwrite (confidently given my 1-on-1 coaching now) and create processes while he loved being on-site and meeting brokers.
We've been partners for almost a year now and after many hours of chatting through business priorities, spending a ton of money on education + outsourcing, and many flights attending events together and on our own to grow our network, we've had a good year.
I didn't think there was a common theme here but after writing all of it out, there is indeed a similar thread. I followed a very generic scientific process: make an educated guess > take a risk in testing it out > refine the approach > try again. I read random books, attended random events, briefly partnered with random people and over time, I've been able to optimize.
I want to emphasize that despite the process being pretty simple, each decision was incredibly hard. Spending thousands of $ to fly to an in-person event and then to Cincinnati with no promise of any return, spending hundreds of hours and pulling 90 hour weeks to underwrite for free, getting in front of sophisticated investors and pitching them a deal as a complete newbie... I've had my fair share of restless nights and candid chats with my wife throughout these past few years but ultimately I always chose to take a risk so I could make some sort of progress.