Thank you everyone, there's so many people with great feedback and I appreciate them all.
I live in a condo HOA , or at least I think it's an HOA and with what James Hamling (@James Hamling) has said I think I need to double check. But here in CA our HOA is $440/month and there's a special assessment every month and it seems the special assessment really never goes away. No amenities either, and there's only about 35 owners. I do know that cost is what makes up everything, the biggest items being earthquake and then anything related to community security like a guard (we don't have) or cameras and server etc. and in some cases where the HOA needs to replenish reserves based on some updated reserve study. In other properties in CA, like parts of San Diego county, I've seen $360/month as well. Those communities are larger (300+ owners) and have gym, pool, basketball court, playground, club house and gated security. I guess the overall cost is spread amongst more owners so the per owner cost is less, so I guess it depends, and I understand CA can be more "costly" when everything is added up. Also, something that I might see as a town home, where other than one attached wall everything else would be no different to a single family house, has been classified as a 'condo'. That townhome/condo being in an HOA I didn't think there was much difference to what I understood to be an HOA (didn't know there was any difference until James Hamling mentioned it), though the town home and the condo (earlier in my paragraph) operate the same, with an HOA board and a PM to help manage and everything is voted on via HOA or board meetings where there's an agenda. I have also seen my fair share of squabbles amongst HOA board members and also with home owners(or condo owners) and boards made up of 'friends' where relationships with and amongst the board and home owners (or I guess condo owners) get tested. I do agree that ultimately, the collective motive is to keep the community and each others homes as valuable as possible, just difference in opinion how we get there.
Separately, with properties in Texas, like Houston, I've paid $300/year, not month, for a single family home in a community, and thought that was more normal in the area. In the homes I was invested in, the HOA did not maintain anything on the home owners lot but did give notices to enforce things. These days I'm seeing communities within the greater Houston are with HOA fees hitting $650-$700/year, and although they are new builds in communities with 300+ homes, that's more than double what I've seen in the past 2-3 years alone and made me start to wonder about the fees as the increase compared to CA is much larger multiples in the same time period.
Thank you again for everyone's feedback, BP forums are always very educational and everyone brings so much to the table for each of us to hear and learn from.
James Kim