Originally posted by @Kevin Christensen:
BP,
I am in the education phase right now. I am consuming every drop of information I can via reading, blogs, podcasts, YT, etc. I am ready to move forward with my first property as soon as the first of the year, maybe sooner if we can close within 30 days around Christmas time. My issue is, my spouse is not driven for long term goals like I am. She wants to enjoy our money that we've worked hard for, while our kids are young, and make memories. To her, that is more important than long term wealth. We aren't promised tomorrow. Before anyone clowns about finding a new wife, we've been together almost 18 years and she is my best friend. No amount of money is worth losing her. With that said, have any of you gone through this type of struggle early in your real estate journey and overcome it? I am not worried about getting her involved. I am worried about her being friction in between me and MY goals. She is super supportive of my mindset and my goals, she just doesn't support things that cause time to be taken away from family stuff or money to be hoarded that could be used for memories. I really appreciate everyone's feedback.
If your spouse is not on board with something like this it makes it much tougher. That will cause much stress in your marriage. Then if things go sideways (and they always do in Real Estate) having an all-in partner is ideal.
I'll use my personal situation. My Father is remarried for 17 years. He is the breadwinner, they have no kids together. His Wife retired 6 years ago, he plans to retire Sept 2019. She wanted and has spent her and his money on "experiences", dinners, trips, workshops, etc. Well My Dad took some money from his 401K and has purchased a few properties. We went in on some together. His wife was adamantly opposed. Mind you I handle all the management, she isn't on any mortgages, etc.
Well a few months ago she had a major medical event. She is now unable to clean, cook, drive, etc. Well My Dad took that money from the rental property profits and pays people to help her weekly get those things done. With her major medical event my Dad had a road to Damascus moment with his own mortality and we engaged in an extensive estate planning, medical will, advanced directive. Lets say with this unexpected turn of events that fact his RE Investments are 4x value of original investment, and generating 2500/mo in cashflow. They are really helping him get through this rough time considering his Wife had no cash reserves, long-term care insurance, etc. Also, she took no issue with spending the profits on whatever new shiny object they she saw on TV or at someone's house prior to her medical event.
What I'm basically saying you know your Wife and you think about the future, and how its shaped. Sometimes you have to act unilaterally in the people you love's best interest even before they realize it. I imagine you are really thinking you need some steady income, and some assets of value as you age, and you are considering RE. I would look into a range of financial products too that meet that goal.