All Forum Posts by: N B.

I'm the same as you. I have a 1 year old, a two year old and I'm pregnant with my third due in July. My fear is the phone calls too. But it can't stop me. Using nap time is the best solution. Also, sometimes, just tell them excuse me, I'm sorry about the kids. Try holding them while on the phone too. That works wonders with me. Or I wait till they are playing somewhere and sneak a phone call in.

My thing is that I just need to learn more about the business and sound like I know what I'm talking about. I prefer mailing, faxing and emails, but sometimes, there's important calls that just need to be made. I'm way slow though and need to get more on a regular schedule.

Well, that's all, blessings. Hope you get over that fear barrier and just do it. By the way, mine are both in diapers two and I got a third on the way, due in July, so I understand, but anything is possible if you put your mind to it.

Congrats on the babies! I am thinking about the third one as well!

Well, girls, it can be tough, but we can do it! Just a little thinking and we are good to go! Naptimes are great, I agree!

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Originally posted by "nationwidepi":

Relax Amber, I was only expressing that the husband in question needs the support of his wife. I never said she had to be in the business. Teaching her the business as he went along was only another suggested option to have her feel more confident. Simply put, a married man will have much more success in anything he does with his wife's backing and encouragement. Strict? I do not think that is much to ask for. I get all the support I can possible get from my wife and it has made me a better investor.

Oh, I wasn't disagreeing with you about the support. But I really didn't take the comments of shutting her up, etc. seriously (plus, I didn't really see any). Of course, that would be ideal - to do thing you love with the person you love. You just kind of... jumped on everyone here) We're not being literal! Of course, men are more successful when behind his back is a supporting woman. And women wouldn't go far if we didn't have men that support us (ugh, this came out wrong, lol). But some people don't want to do what we want to do, and v/v... It is absolutely no reason to divorce…

But anyway, how is the author doing?

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Originally posted by "TC":

BTW: If I ever told my old lady to shut the F up, she'd kick me right in the gonad's and own 1/2 my homes.

BRAVO! :lol:
"You can be happy, or you can be right!" (wink)

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Originally posted by "nationwidepi":

Many of these posts suggested leaving the wife, hiding it from her, lying, or telling her to basically shut the f up. First of all, none of you are Tony Soprano, and secondly this business requires morals, ethics and integrity. The last thing we need in this business is to add more crap such as the unethical guru salespeople who prey on newbie investors.

Uh, so strict! Relax, I don't think he is going to divorce his wife. However, that is her right not to believe in this business, and not to join her husband. If she doesn't like it - fine. It is really ok. He doesn't need to put her through the basic training.

My husband has a winery. And guess what - I am absolutely NOT intrested in making wine. Kill me! But I want nothing to do with it. I support him in his business (morally), but never stick my nose into it. He throws me the deals when he sees one, and, in general, helps me when he can. Being married doesn't mean that you have to live someone's life. It is an art: you live the life together. That's different.

Your comment "this business requires morals, ethics and integrity" makes no sense in this thread. He is not going to "shut" his wife, etc. He just wants to do things and she is against it. As MANY people here agreed - the best way - a good example. Show her what it can provide, and IF she is interested, she'll join you, if she's not - she'll let you do it on your own. And as someone earlier said - Make sure that you make profit on the first deal! Good luck!

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Originally posted by "GetErDun":

Thanks, I love it! You're DOING exactly what I am making excuses about why I can't do it...
..Thanks again for whacking me upside the head and CONGRATS on your tenacity to get it freaking done with 2 kids at home!

Took me awhile to figure the system out, I'll be honest! :D
You are welcome! I hope this will help and you can get your business up and running, even with the noisy child)

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Originally posted by "craig91167":

When I bought my first rental house my brother told me that i was not going to make any money and it was the dumbest thing to get into. I'm glad I never took his advice. After 4 years watching me invest in real estate he bought his first house to rent. Now he owns 18 houses and flips three to four per year. And I might ad that he does not work any job but real estate now! I think he is probably glad I never took his advice.

I rest my case. :D

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The question: Why do you need to convince her in the first place? Do things, and when they will turn successful, she will come around on her own. It is a dead-end business to change someone's stubborn outlook. Trust me. Been there, done that.

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Well, I did have an issue with my husband once. See Stubborn Hubby topic.
Anyway, when it comes to the opinion of your family, regarding anything - investing, your girlfriend or the color of your sweater, use this: I stop and think - Ok they are going to give me advises, but who's living MY life? ME! Not them! They are going to dish out their opinion and I will have to live with the outcome. No way) That's how it works for me.

Just listen, nod your head and do what you think you should do.

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Originally posted by "Toby_Munk":

If you invest on trust you are doomed.

I agree!
There is Russian saying (in my free translation) "Friendship is friendship, but keep your money separately", something like that - you get the meaning.

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Hey, haven't been here for awhile...
Answering your question: why do you even consider it a problem? It shouldn't be! Just look at it from the bright side - you are always home, there for your child... What can be better?

About the phone calls:
I have a 2 year old daughter and a 6 year old karateka-son. You can't even imagine what dojo I live in! Kiyaaa! There is no phone answering. At all. My husband calls from work and I do not asnwer it. I call back. I listen to the message, then grab my cell, go to the bathroom or into the driveway, and call people back.

You may say: ah, it is so rude (unprofessional, unsensitive, ignorant, blah blah blah). Not if you inform callers to leave a message. For example, I have business cards that say Tel: xxx-xxx-xxxx (leave a message), so they know PRIOR to calling that I won't answer and that they are supposed to leave a message. I don't think that it would be more professional if they heard kids screaming and doing karate chops in the background.

The funny part is that when I call them back (usually 5-10 minutes after they leave the message), they are all surprised and happy - wow, you called back so fast! :D Sure, why not? I AM good!

Plus, when people leave messages it gives me some time to recall my business case with that particular person, and I am ready for a talk.

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