@D'Andre Byers
The first house I purchased as a single 23-year-old (I am now 42) was a duplex, and every house I’ve lived in (and owned) since then has had some sort of rental income. Our current home has an apartment over the garage.
Obviously, my husband knew this was a package deal, and it was always my thing, so he didn’t have an issue with the one I already owned.
Then I wanted to buy more places, and he didn’t think we could afford it. He doesn’t get involved really at all in the finances, so I am not sure he felt strongly about this, and I suspect it was more of a vague “you don’t let me spend all the money I want, so we can’t afford extra stuff” kind of mindset.
BUT THEN his Gram went into assisted living, and his uncle needed to sell the house to pay her bills. My husband practically grew up at his Gram’s, and he REALLY wanted that house to stay in the family. He never mentioned this to me, because he didn’t think we could afford it. One day I brought up again that we should buy a camp, use it a few weeks in the summer and rent it the rest of the time to make it pay for itself. He replied that if he did something like that, he’d want his Gram’s house and then told me it was about to be sold outside the family.
I suggested we buy it, renovate it and list it as a short-term rental. We went over the numbers and knew if it didn’t get many guests, we could still pay the bills but would need to adjust our lifestyle. With a 25% occupancy rate, the property would break even with no impact on our personal finances. He agreed, and we did just that. We now, 2 years later, enjoy a greater than 50% occupancy rate over the course of a year.
By the way, he is now on board with expanding our investing, provided that he doesn’t have to do renovations himself. I enjoy this type of work, and I can hire out jobs I don’t want to do or that exceed my skill set, so this is a plan that works for us.
He definitely was not wanting to invest in anything additional 3 years ago. Now he sees it as a path to a more comfortable retirement and possibly even early retirement. Obviously, our situation is unique and may not be applicable to you. You are very smart to want to invest in RE, and starting at a young age will serve you well, IMO.
I would make her aware of a few things.
-She can be as involved or uninvolved as she cares to be personally.
-This has the potential to make your life much more comfortable in the long run.
-There is a lot of satisfaction to be gained through “making things better.”
-The “sacrifice” of a house hack or duplex living for a few years has the potential to result in MUCH more appealing options down the road.
As a side note, I strongly recommend rehabbing a house together before you get married, if you can talk her into it. If you can make it through that, you can make it through anything. My husband and I renovated that house, and it was super stressful, but I don’t think we fought once (about the house anyway). We approached problems as a team and actually enjoyed doing it together. Other people, I can tell you, we’d have been at each other’s throats if I had to do that project with previous partners. It is a good test of how you approach problems and work together (or not) and you’ll learn a lot about your relationship.
Good luck!