@Nadine Delille It's definitely not easy, but nothing good in life comes easy. If I would have started with wholesaling, I would have been as stressed out as you were. I think most people make wholesaling seem so easy, but it's really not. They say you find a deal and a buyer and boom, you're rich! But no, it's not like that. I think it takes even more work than investing in your own deals.
I think house hacking would be a great way to go. If you have a full time job and you're saving money, you can put the 3.5% down on a duplex, triplex or fourplex and live in one of the units while you save more money for another deal. I live in New York where it's extremely expensive to buy so I could not do a house hack. My husband and I saved money for about a year to purchase rental properties in Florida. We bought our first one in February of this year and are closing on the second one now. It took a ton of analyzing deals. I don't know how many hours/days/weeks I sat in front of the computer searching. So although it sounds easy to say we have two rental properties, it wasn't that simple. I hope the house hacking can work out for you. Start with something simpler, get your feet wet and then get into the more complicated deals. We started with rental properties using the 20% down conventional mortgage and after this we will try hard money for a flip. If we started with hard money and a flip, I'm sure we would've been in the hole right about now. Good luck!