@Barbara Long as @Karyn T. mentioned don't leave, some of us may be a bit harsh at times, but everyone is trying to help out. Your are probably closer then you think to a workable strategy. Some minor tweaking may be all you need to create a great wholesaling/rehabbing business. .
A lot of people will tell you that you cant find deals from the mls and wholesale them to other rehabbers. You need to determine if this is true in your area if thats the game you want to play. In our area it is not true, although plenty of locals tell me that. If you can find great deals and get them under contract, you can double close on bank owned properties, and stay legal that way, or as @j Scott mentioned get your real estate license. I am doing that right now to have better control over deals and tap into the commissions on the buy side as well.
You mentioned, just rehabbing the deals. If wholesaling is your first choice, why not try wholesaling all your deals and just rehab if you cant sell them. That is what we do with many of our deals, some of the best deals we keep for ourselves, but I I don't buy any deals that I would not rehab myself.
Wholesaling is a significant portion of our business and one that we will will be pushing a lot more this year. We have had seven mls offers accepted since January and we wholesaled five of them to other full time rehabbers who know their game very well. It is not as impossible as some would have you believe, at least not in NE Ohio, and I assume there are many other places that it is possible as well if you learn to play the game well.
Good luck in your real estate adventures.