@Mark Ferguson - We do not yet even have a contract. She took it off 3 weeks ago, and we still don;t have a contract. That's why I'm upset. I agree once the contract is signed it should be updated, but to this point everything is just a verbal acceptance of the offer.
@Josh C. - The sale price is $385k, but in NY closing costs are high due to pre payment of taxes, insurance, flood insurance etc..
@Albert Bui - Is that a hard and fast rule of 6% seller concessions?
Also thank you for the suggestion. Since my lawyer now has to make a new contract due to them changing the funding, I am taking your advice and adding in there
" buyer to be pre-approved through sellers choice of preferred lender prior to acceptance."
As well as, I decided i would add that the buyer will include a check for $10K to be put into an escrow account to be used towards funding any appraisal issues due to the concession they requested. If the house is appraised for full value, then no worries they get their full $10k back. If not, we will already have the funds to cover it so we can close the deal.
Additionally, I want to see if my lawyer will put a time limit in there that the buyer must sign within 3 days.
My agent just told me that the buyers are cash heavy, but don't want to part with it. So i think this option is the best route.
Why someone would have enough cash for a 20% down payment and not use it makes no sense to me. Why pay PMI, higher interest rate, and additional costs? I don't get it.
Additionally, I want to thank everyone here for reading, and posting replies. This is a great community, and very lucky to have found it. I hope i can contribute as I learn more as well.