Hello,
I'm not in Pennsylvania, yet I've seen this type of thing before. The seller might trust the realtor more than a stranger that walked up at the job site. Don't know if they have a previous business relationship or not.
Regardless, we're all in real estate to make money, and to serve others. As an investor, your primary goal is probably to buy at the lowest price (you make your money when you buy at below market value), fix it up, and either hold or sell/flip.
The seller might realize they "don't know what they don't know"....in general, investors sometimes come across as "transactional" (they ran the numbers, and just want a yes or no from the seller). Sounds like this seller wants someone who will get to know him, HELP him, PROTECT him from aggressive buyers/investors. Or, there could be some other reason that you may never know.
You might not get this deal. You might talk with the realtor and decide the numbers don't work for you. You might talk with the realtor and feel "pushed"....like the seller probably already felt when you approached him (maybe?☺️)...you might talk with the realtor and it goes on the MLS and it sells to someone else....or it might sit on the MLS for a while and you eventually get it.
My point is, as a realtor and investor myself, put yourself in the other person's shoes...they don't want to feel "pushed" or like someone is trying to take advantage of them. You might be offering a generous amount (I have not seen the property or run the comps).
Real estate is a relationship business. My advice is to do as the seller instructed and talk to the realtor. The more you push, the less progress you'll make is what I have found.
You seem to know what number you need to pay in order for this to work for you. That's good. The more deals you do, the more you'll learn. Even though the seller may not have signed yet with the realtor, evidently he trusts the realtor more than he trusts you. Can't push the seller in order to "get what you want"...that just proves the seller does need the agent to protect him from getting taken advantage of.
I'm not trying to be a "butt head" to you, just giving you my honest opinion. If you went to a car dealership to look at cars, would you want a salesman trying to push you into buying by offering you 3 options?
Get to know the agent, be friendly and professional...if the property goes on the market and doesn't sell for a while, that agent will probably call you back.
You might want to send out letters/mail campaign to find your own off market deals.
Basically, the seller told you to communicate with his agent (not to contact him directly), so please do that. I don't think you're going to change the person's mind by being aggressive.
Yes, money is important...but it's not the only thing. People want to be heard and understood, not confronted by an aggressive investor...you can only control how you react to what happens. However this goes, learn from it and you'll be better equipped when you find the next deal.
Sometimes, when we don't get to buy a property that we really want to, it turns out to be a blessing. Besides, if the real estate agent is honest and good, be nice and professional with them...they might come across a "deal" that wouldn't work for them to list and tell you about it.
Best to you! Would love to hear how this turns out.