@Christopher Beasley
Ok, a lot to unpack here.
First, I need to understand this completely: When you say you are $600 in debt, do you mean $600/month? Meaning the $1976 mortgage payment + $600/month in debts are approximately 35% of your monthly income, therefore making your DTI = 35% only including your primary lien + debts?
Second, are you saying that you still want to stay in the primary residence for another 4 years prior to purchasing a 2nd? If so, why are you getting preapproved right now?
Third, I'd make sure that you have enough remaining entitlement to move onto the 2nd home. Veterans United may not have checked your Certificate of eligibility, thus throttling your purchasing power.
Fourth, for VA loans only, it's OK to go past the 50% DTI ratio as long as you have enough of what is called "Residual Income." If you look in the VA guidelines, you are allowed to go past the 50% DTI threshold as long as you have enough cash left over each month. These are broken out by regions and the amount needed as Residual Income differs from place to place. Furthermore, you must add income taxes, state taxes, SS, and Medicare on top of that - as well as the NEW home's utilities, which is a function of the sq footage. If you have enough Residual Income left after that, your DTI can push higher than 50%. Feel free to schedule a call with me if you want to do an example, it's too much to type here. Also, I'm not licensed in OK so I won't try to sell you anything.
Fifth, for you departing residence the 75% of rental income is inaccurate. The guideline states you can only wash out the departing residence's mortgage, even if it's beyond 75%. Take a look for yourself with this excerpt from THE VA GUIDELINES:
"Use the prospective rental income only to offset the mortgage payment on the rental property, and only if there is not an indication that the property will be difficult to rent. This rental income may not be included in effective income.
Obtain a working knowledge of the local rental market. If there is not a lease on the property, but the local rental market is very strong, the lender may still consider the prospective rental income for offset purposes. Provide a justification on VA Form 26-6393, Loan Analysis.
Reserves are not needed to offset the mortgage payment on the property the Veteran occupies prior to the new loan."
Sixth, you're not stuck, you're just working with Veterans United (VU). VU is a corporate, retail bank with exceptional marketing. They have great content, however they have captive employees that do not receive a commission on each deal. As a result, they will not go the extra mile to work on a somewhat complex scenario, since yours does not fit into the typical cookie cutter box. I'd be happy to refer you to an expert VA broker that can not only beat VU in rate, but also give you a clear solution moving forward.
Lastly, none of these are tricks. This is all published openly to the public, it just takes a bit of creativity to fit all the pieces together.
You'll make this work.