I have a question about something that occurred between my lender and my real estate agent this past weekend, hoping you all can tell me if this is normal and accepted or not before I say something to my team. There is a TL;DR at the end.
I am a beginner RE investor. I have purchased several homes in my life (definitely not new to being a buyer), currently own two homes (my private residence and a rental home). I have worked with the same agent for these last two homes and used the lender in question for the last purchase. My husband and I are considering a third home to purchase (with intent to either rent out our current residence, or to buy as an investment home), but we are watching MLS listings and just waiting for the right house to pop up before we move. We only see a home that matches what we're looking for every month or two.
Last week I emailed my agent for the first time in a few months and told him we would like to go see a certain house we were interested in, that we hadn't gone through preapproval but I had checked on third mortgage qualifications with our lender a few weeks prior and I thought we would have no problem qualifying, and that we're just casually looking until we see a house we want to jump on.
REA shows us the home, we tell him we're considering it but going to take a couple of weeks to decide (market is slow here, husband works out of state), but when husband comes back if the home is still available we'd probably put an offer in. That's all we said to him about it, as we wanted to weigh the various pros and cons.
Next thing I know I get auto-letters from our lender saying they've pulled our credit (the required "this is your credit score" letter), and our agent has sent us an email saying our lender told him that we'd be approved on such-n-such terms, blah blah.
I don't appreciate our credit being pulled without our permission, or our lender and agent discussing our finances and approval status together, much less without our knowledge or consent or even saying we were ready to move forward.
But before I say anything, is this normal? Do agents usually ask lenders if these particular repeat buyers are going to be approved, and lenders feel free pull credit scores and to tell the agents, all without telling the clients themselves? I don't want to be upset if this is an industry standard that I am unfamiliar with, but it feels all wrong to me. I don't have any particular feelings one way or another about the lender we use, but I really like our agent and wouldn't want to hurt any future business we might do together by saying something if this was an industry-accepted interaction.
TL;DR Agent and lender discussed our financial state without our permission, pulled our credit report without asking or informing us, then lender disclosed results to agent who told us. Have heard nothing from lender, we didn't ask or even imply that we wanted agent to do this. Is this normal?