Here is my experience, I too was working for an IT industry 20 years and did real estate on the side was hard work! I began in 1996 with a gift of $2000 from my Dad and a FHA loan on a house hack and took out a loan on it about 250000 five years later to purchase flip deals to then find myself at a loss in 2008 from the real estate bubble. In 2007 is when my break came to buying my first multifamily unit had the cash for the down payment. It was a 8 unit building complete with laundry and parking lot. I did not have the opportunity to enjoy the management part of it when the crash of 2008 came, tenants began to loose their jobs were not paying the rent caused my loan to default and went into foreclosure along with my other real estate investments. I began to get ill at my time management affected my IT job found myself sneaking out of work to take care of my other real estate deals to save my real estate investment properties portfolio . I had no help from anyone was my own manager and actually did pretty damn good! If it wasn't for the crash, I would have been sitting pretty today. My advice to you is this, LEVERAGE your time. If want to be out there and do real estate to experience the thrill, hire managers or do what I thought of doing but never had the balls is take the leap of faith, QUIT YOUR JOB ! Quitting your job gives you full time real estate investing to doing deals fast. I see there are two of you, brothers. One should quit working and the other maintain a job, a requirement to getting conventional loans.
Today I am unemployed and happy managing properties from Mexico here in the US. I took the leap of faith finally in 2014 and working on getting back in the game find it harder to get loans due to the lending guidelines are strictest after the RE crash here but not in Mexico.
I hope this story of my life will inspire you to take the leap of faith so dreams can become a reality. I hope to be purchasing properties in the US anytime soon because the currency in Mexico is hurting right now am unable to do foreign exchange but with the course of time will be a new chapter unfolding.
Best of luck to you and your brother.