@Christopher Smith
From one active duty Air Force Member to another, one multifamily investor to another - quit whining and suck it up butter cup.
You're focusing on the wrong things. You're focusing on the "no's" and the hardships. Focus on the learning points. There are no such things as failures, merely opportunities to learn. Every no is an opportunity to understand drivers of human emotion and decision making. Write it down, document everything you fail at and why. Then do better next time.
Study, Read, learn, repeat.
Read Grant Cardone's books, study how to Invest in Real Estate with no and low money down from Brandon Turner, how to negotiate from Chris Voss, how to pick a market and Syndicate from Joe Fairless, how to build a brand and raise capital from Hunter Thompson and Matt Faircloth, how to Win Friends and Influence People from the book by the same name.
Become the subject matter expert on some thing, know something so well that people want, no, they need you on their team. Good leaders and syndicators understand that "No one is smarter than all of us." - Jim Rohn. This simple fact is why good leaders look for special people to bring on the team. For example: Become so good at finding a deal in your market that when you do, someone will demand to partner with you.
This is exactly how we started - my brother (@Chris Levarek) and I started October 2018, BRRRRed 2 duplexes, then scaled up to small multifamily, and by April 2020 we had 43 cashflowing rentals under management and 220 units under contract. And we had partnered, borrowed, and syndicated every single one of those deals.
In closing, do something, take action, build your value, your brand, your network, etc. Don't rely on or blame others for not funding your passion or dream. Take action. Action builds experience, experience builds credibility and credibility creates potential.
"You are what you do, not what you say you'll do." - Carl Jung.
Now go find a deal and we'll bring the team and the money. Kidding.... but serious.
All the best and feel free to reach out if you have questions.