The most valuable personal component of my own real estate investing is the ability to self-start, to be self-motivated, to find and read and listen to stuff by myself, to reach for solutions by myself, to adopt someone else's best practice based on my own personal judgment, to always, always, always be up and after what I need to do.
The biggest reason I see others holding back is a fundamental unwillingness to do their best and yet fall flat on their faces and fail. Fail publicly, humiliatingly, over and over and over again in front of their friends and family. Fail so many times and in so many ways that failure is as close to them as or closer than their brother.
The immense majority of the people I meet cannot look a stranger in a suit in the face and say, with zero hesitation and good humor, "Oh yes, I am a failure in life. A complete failure. A miserable failure. A nothing. A zero. A nobody beyond redemption. And just who the hell are you, Jack?"
I know it sounds trite, but Michael Jordan really did say it best: "I can accept failure. I can't accept not trying."
As I see things, the world is jam-packed with not-tryers. Absolutely overwhelmed with them. They'll start tomorrow. They need some time. They'll think it over and get back to you. They want to revisit this over coffee and a sammich sometime next month.
And so, my best advice is not to go looking for a coach to turn you into an eagle from a s***bird.
I see a lot of those types reaching for a coach as a crutch and lying to themselves about it. They do it so they'll be able to blame her or him when they screw up. Or at least share some of the blame. Anything to avoid being humiliated, to know in their bones they've failed and they're a failure, to have the closest people to them know it too.
You need to understand coaching as a form of education, strip away the glib mysticism that so many charlatans sell. Someone who comes to you one day and tells you that he's going to change your life forever in a million ways and introduce you to an elite group of his associates and disciples isn't a coach. He's either a charlatan or Jesus Christ, and there was only one Jesus Christ. It also bears remembering that Jesus Christ didn't wear a bright blue suit and put goop in his hair.
On the other hand, the guy who specifically explains that he knows three different kinds of deals he can teach you, four different kinds of flip, two styles of buying and holding, that he can introduce you to (insert name) to (insert reason) and (insert name) to (insert reason), THAT'S who you want to listen to. No Jesus, no drama, facts, known associates, reproducible results, concrete reachable goals.
While you'll go in as a s***bird and come out as a s***bird, at least you'll have some money in your pocket and knowledge in your head. And just in case you were unaware, eagles have a cloaca, too.