Thanks for the feedback everyone!
Just to give everyone an update, evidently the lender does have some success with 203k. My situation might have gone arry when my original loan officer left the company shortly after I was approved. The lender stuck me with a loan officer who seems inexperienced and not able to tell me much about the process.
What I found out is that the lender will require a lead-based paint inspection BEFORE closing and Might even require me to stabilize any lead-based paint findings BEFORE closing. It has taken days to only get partial answers to my question. I asked them to assume that the property likely has lead throughout the interior and exterior and let me know what I need to do from there. The underwriter is not comfortable with doing that. They want to confirm the findings first. They have not been able to give me a complete gameplan for what happens if lead is found even though they knew my scope of work prior to the appraisal. I did confirm from a lead-based paint inspector that they will detect the presence of lead under any amount of new paint so @Derreck Wells you're right about that. @Noreen Eddy I considered just trying to buy the property with a conventional but I won't get to do the repairs needed so I'm going to pass on this one rather than trying to figure out a new way to get it done.
My team was proactive enough to include scraping/repainting the exterior trim on the windows that we noticed were chipping. We also know that we will be disturbing paint. patching and repainting plaster on many of the interior walls so that we can update knob and tube electrical to current standards. We have contractors on the team that are certified to handle lbp renovations.
Later, I found out that someone I actually know recently got an FHA 203k from the same lender but they were allowed to do a lead-based paint inspection after closing. From this ordeal, I've learned that lenders/underwriters do not necessarily follow set standards for each project and their word is final.
@Paul Welden was kind enough to share his knowledge and connect me with other lenders. For now, that deal is dead. There are too many what-ifs to justify pursuing it further. Paul also confirmed that once an appraisal report is generated, it becomes The only valid FHA appraisal for that property for 120 days. Any FHA borrower will be required to use that appraisal report for 120 days (not applicable to any other loan such as conventional, VA, USDA, etc.)
I'm going to take a look at another lender and a different property. If I have success I'll definitely share the lender information!