Hey Albert,
I think I can shed some light on your situation, but I will warn you that this is a very "inside baseball" explanation.
Basically the bank takes the most conservative approach unless you can prove otherwise. Therefore, they are hitting you with the full liability in case you simply have an extra property for your in laws. Unfortunately, in an underwriters eyes this is a all of nothing issue
Here are some potential solutions:
1. Are you paying the mortgage out of your account or are your in laws paying it? I ask this, because Fannie and Freddie are willing to exclude a mortgage if you can show that you are not the one who has been paying it. If you are able to show 12 months of payments from your in laws, the underwriting guidelines for conventional loans will allow you to remove this from your monthly debt. However, this can be difficult if the income is claimed on the schedule E of your tax returns and you will not be able to use the income from the property to qualify.
2. You may not even need to solve this problem! If you are paying the mortgage, you can offset the debt with the income the property generates. Basically, if the schedule E on your tax return shows enough income (after add backs such as depreciation), it will essentially nullify the liability in your DTI calc. Here is a link to the calculator that many lenders use to determine what the effective income of your rental property is: https://new-content.mortgagein...
This is more accurate than previous posts suggestion that you use 75% of the rents because the Fannie/Freddie guidelines state that you only do the 75% calc if you have rented the property less than a year. Obviously, tax information is personal and I would never ask you to share that info. However, if you are willing to send me the "theoretical" numbers on your schedule E without the rest of your returns...I am absolutely willing to do fill in the calc.
3. Quit claim the property into a non pass through entity and refi it into that entity. This solution can be a mine field because you would need to not personally garuntee the loan for it not to show on your credit report. The downside is that your would either not use the income generated from the property or go through the extremely laborious self employed process. Warning!!! I am not an account or lawyer.
4. Find a credit union or local bank to work with who is apprised of the situation and willing to take your unique situation into account. They would need to take your future acquisition on as a portfolio loan which likely means higher rates and lower leverage. These relationship are usually built over time, thus adding another hurdle.
5. Use hard money for your next purchase. Hard money can be scary, but if your next purchase is 100% a rental property, I know a lender that will lend just off the cash flow of the deal (and credit score) without doing a DTI calculation. Feel free to direct message me if you would like this info.
I know this is A LOT of information, so please let me know if you have any questions. The best weapon in your situation is having the knowledge to correctly present yourself to a lender. More often than not loans are ruined by the borrower giving too much information instead of the right information.