Getting your spouse involved in your real estate investing business.

One of the keys to getting started in real estate is not getting stopped in the beginning.I have seen a lot of investors quit or give up before they ever get started.One of the main reasons for this stoppage is that their spouse isn’t onboard with real estate investing.

So what is happening here?Why is it that one spouse understands real estate investing and sees the potential, while the other spouse is fighting any and all progress in that direction?

In general the answer is fear.I have noticed that in many couples there is one party who is the risk taker and one who is the safety catch.In my house, I am the risk taker, I move forward with pretty close to zero fear.My wife on the other hand needs to investigate every little detail.I swear that she actually read every line of every document on the first closing we did after we were married.I went for an hour long walk while she did that.So I have spent years training my wife to trust my judgment so that we are not fighting about deals.I NEED to have her on my team.My wife is my partner in all things including my real estate investing business.Let me be blunt here, if you spouse is fighting you, you will not be able to succeed unless you get him or her on your side quickly.

In many cases, you spouse may actually believe that you have been taken in by some sort of scam, or that you are doing the exact same thing that his/her 3rd cousin’s best friend’s grandmother’s neighbor just did, and he/she is sure you will lose money just like that person did.So in many cases you spouse may be attempting to protect you by undermining your real estate efforts.

So here is the key, to getting your spouse on your team, or at the very least, getting him/her to allow you to do your thing.I don’t care how you do it, but you need to get your spouse to attend, watch, listen to, or read as much of the same investor training that you are going through.I personally can’t get my wife to read anything, I can’t get her to watch webinars, I can sometimes get her to listen to audio training while we drive in the car, but that is a negotiating point in its own right.I generally say something like “if I will go to that play that you want to see, if we listen to this real estate CD while we drive there”.You do what you need to do. What really worked for me was attending out of town seminars.My wife loves to travel so I tied that into getting her into my world of real estate investing. So now what I do, is I find training in places where my wife will want to go, and I tell her if she goes with me, we will stay a day or three late and go do something that she wants to do.As I am writing this article I am at a seminar in Orland (Ocala) FL.My wife is at Disney having a good time with the kids.I don’t need to bribe her anymore because she understands my world now, but I still take her with me when I can.

So now your task is to find a way to give your spouse something that he/she wants in exchange for getting them onboard with real estate investing.

To your success

Josh