5 Things You Need To Know On How To Stop Unhealthy Arguments

The most important thing in an argument, next to being right, is to leave an escape hatch for your opponent so that he can gracefully swing over to your side without too much apparent loss of face.

-Sydney J. Harris

Most of us have already argued with someone at some point in our lives. It could be with your wife, sibling, friend or co-worker. There's a back and forth debate of ideas that’s unhealthy for relationships.

But, what if you could stop this from recurring? Here are some ways on how you can stop arguments and nurture truly healthy and productive relationships.

1. Understand how destructive ANGER can be

One hundred percent of all arguments are a by-product of ANGER. We need to understand that anger can be self-destructive if we let it simmer. One way you can overcome this is to rely more on reason and less on your emotions when you're arguing with someone. 

2. Don’t talk about past issues

As a defensive counterpart during arguments, past issues are often brought up into the scene. Sure, we may need to bring up past events and experiences from time to time, but it's actually counterproductive if we always keep on referencing the past. After all, a problem can never be resolved if we continue to dwell on past problems.

3. Pay attention to each other's needs 

Arguments often involve a clash between two opposing ideas, but often, they can be resolved if both parties are willing to make a compromise for the seek of each other's needs. Respect begets respect, and it's important to consider what the other person is going through. 

4. Listen to every word

Listening to the other person’s concern and allowing them to say what they wanted to say allows you to make sensible rebuttals and keeps tensions from rising. So, take the time to listen to what the other person is saying. You'd be surprised by the results if you do!

5. Lower down your voice

Our voice is a powerful tool that can be used to prevent a situation from boiling over. Arguing with someone with a confrontational tone can lead the other person into thinking that you're insensitive. Bad impressions can lead to unnecessary arguments, so be sure to wear a smile and be patient! Talk in a soothing voice and you'll be able to get people to like you in the long run.