You Annoy Me!!!

[Nick J.]

Lets start off by saying that I am no social media/marketing expert by any means. I know how twitter, I know how to share a link/blog post or something interesting to social bookmarking sites but I am certainly NOT an expert.

I am however an expert at knowing when I'm annoyed with someone. This feeling of annoyance happens a lot with me and not because I'm better than you, smarter than you or make more money than you, I'm annoyed with you because when you 'try' to connect with me, you're selling me something and I'm NOT BUYING.

here's what I mean.

You've probably seen threads and blogs speaking about twitter and the automated responses that happen there where the responder to you is putting in a link to his e-book/blog/product or whatever dumb crap(I would have sh1t but I'm trying to watch my mouth).

How annoying is that? I don't even know you, I'd like to connect with you and see if there is a value knowing you but the first things that come out of your filthy mouth is a sales pitch?

Here's my loyalty and usage of social networking:
1. BiggerPockets: If you send me a colleague request and your profile isn't properly filled out and you don't add a little note like, " I'd like to connect with you" or something of that nature then you will be DENIED. If you don't or can't commit to yourself and/or your own profile then how do you expect me to perceive you?

2. Facebook: I like facebook for the most part. I like to connect with others and see what they're putting on their wall. Some of my favorite people on Facebook aren't always promoting something but rather interact with others. Take our very own Stephani, she's probably one of my favorite facebook friends b/c she posts up interesting stuff all the time and its NOT always a sales pitch. She interacts with others and makes it enjoyable to interact with her. I actually feel like her friend even though her and I never spoken over the phone or met in person.

My other favorites would be a friend of mine from Joplin, he's a religious man going to school to be a preacher man. I'm not a super religious man but I believe in a higher power 100%. His name is Wade and he posts up religious things which I don't mind one bit but he also posts up random and very interesting topics and sometimes he doesn't post anything but rather will start a conversation with a one-liner which is always funny. It gives me the chance to stay connected with him and connect with others that know him.

3. Twitter: I'll be honest, I check out twitter on a semi-regular basis. Sometimes people post up some cool stuff but mostly it's referred to me as 'short form spamming' as most of it is used to drive traffic to an affiliate product. Every time you accept a follower, you have no idea who they are, what they want or what they're selling. Most if not 99.9% of the time you will get an automated message from them with some link in it like, 'Get 1,000,0000,000,000 followers in 30 mins, click here' and you check their profile and they only have 100 followers. How annoying is that?

I started this rant simply because a minute of my life was murdered today in cold blood.

What I mean by that is I got an email that someone (I won't say who) who is a member of BP and NOT to my surprise has NOT even taken the consideration to properly fill out his profile and the only thing in it is the website where he sells some 'wholesaling' course thingy. This person sent me a message the other day on Facebook in his friend request and I ignored him then.

I get the SAME EXACT message from him again this morning in a friend request on Facebook and it was obvious to me he is only trying to be a snake oil salesman and brings no value to me.

I felt compelled to write him a note telling him how much I didn't appreciate him taking that moment of my life away from me and that I will never get that moment back. I informed him that he was annoying and I had no well wishes for him. I then sent it to him, ignored his request and blocked him from future communication.

Now, some of you may think I'm a jerk and that's fine, I don't care!! You have your time wasted but I choose NOT to.

There is a saying that a man with 100 good friends is wealthier than a man with 1000 bad friends.

Think about that, I don't NEED or WANT you as my friend. I have enough friends, I don't need any more!!! What I want is a few more GOOD FRIENDS. Someone that I can connect with.

If you are selling a product but I get to know who you are and what you do and we communicate like friends, I WILL BUY YOUR PRODUCT just because I like you, I respect you and I think you bring value to my life and I won't buy your product just because we're friends but rather because I want to experience more value from our friendship and I like you enough to want more value from our friendship. I will buy your product because I like who you are and what you stand for.

Get my drift?

Are you picking up what I'm putting down?

So YOU who reading this post are on notice!!!

I DO NOT want you as my friend, I have plenty of friends. You are only going to waste my time and you will be considered a 'moment of my life murderer'.

If you want to prove me wrong, the connect with me and bring value to our relationship as I will bring value as well.

If you CAN'T do that, then leave me be and I'll grow up an old happy and wealthy man.