In a difficult place with an old friend - need advice

[Chris M.]

Hey guys, I'm in a tough spot here and would really love to hear from others who may have been in similar situations.

One of my oldest friends is having a hard time growing up. He's a stoner and plays a lot of video games and doesn't seem to ever be following through with any plans to become something greater. He's pretty much like a brother to me and is one of the friends I spend a lot of time with... but I don't want to be a video game playing stoner.

Something that Josh and Brandon often emphasize here on BiggerPockets is to associate with the kind of people you strive to be like. It makes a lot of sense and I am now actively trying to connect to other business owners and investors to form new friendships.

My question is: have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it and what happened to the relationship? 

I've known this guy since I was five years old and this is a really tough spot. We still have fun times... but for the past year I've been getting a little burnt on weed and video games (I'm completely sober now). I'm determined to become successful and financially free, but feel as though if I keep hanging out with him it'll be like an anchor or at least extra weight that'll slow me down on the path I want to take in life. Am I being selfish? Is this wrong? Like I said, he's one of my main friends and someone I spend a decent amount of time with.

Thanks guys and I sincerely look forward to your thoughts here. This is a tough place for me and I want to handle it in the best way that I can.