mental health questions

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2 questions for all the great minds here at bigger pockets

1. How long did it for you close your first deal? Im talking about the day you decided "im going to do this" to the day you actually closed on the first deal?

2. How do you determine when discouraging advice is well intended? If I had a $1 for every time someone told me you cant do that!!!!" I can retire. I can accept the word NO as long as there is reasoning behind it, Im just having a hard time accepting numerous people saying "you cant do that" then not taking it a step further and explaining their reasoning. This is coming from someone from my own team who is always giving the worst case scenario available and constantly saying not to do the deal because there is this thing called "risk"