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No Support!
How do I succeed when my husband is so against this and it keeps causing arguments between us?
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That is a great question!
The answer is that it will be nuch harder with an unsupportive spouse, I have seen many investors burn out and give up because they had no support at home.
There are three potential winning strategies here.
The first is to educate your spouse about your dream and why real estate is the path to that dream. What you are asking your spouse for is trust. He needs to trust that you know what you are getting into despite his preformed ideas. Try explaining specific deals to him and show him how you could profit, in theory, as a purely intelectual exercise. See if he will play that game with you.
Secondly and much more effective is the shut up check. Spouses tend to shut up when you actually produce a check from your efforts. This magic check turns theory into reality. Then you can explain the deal in past tense.
A third option is to get him into conversations with other investors who are really making money, This is hard if you dont have success in your immediate social circle.
IF all else fails, ask him point blank, why dont you support my attempt to better our lives? Then you can deal with whatever objections he raises.
It is not easy but converting an unsupportive spouse can be done.
To your success
Josh