It's a business plain and simple, and the learning curve to master processes (once you're in) can be steeper than many folks can handle.

They will need to be interested in basically being a landlord till the tenant buyer gets a bank loan.ANOTHER area new folks get wrong and harms the tenant buyer is the option fee is not handled or contracted correctly for the eventual financing bank to include the option fee paid to be included in the down payment. 

She said what does she have to do with anything and told me she can handle it herself.

Don't let anyone tell you different -- C-class hands-on landlording is where you get the most bang for your buck initially if you can handle fixing a single-family or small-multifamily up.

I'm building out my business and in need of a CPA that handles self directed IRAs as well as multi state taxation for me, a California resident.

Appreciated if you have similar experiences and would like to share the ways to handle it.

How did you handle ernest money etc....?

I would do as @Dena Puliatti suggested and handle the storage / fees for that separately.  

I feel like there has to be a better way to handle this matter in regards to the court system. 

In fact, if you had legal entity you really should have a business credit card to maintain your corporate veil.The bottom line is you need to handle your bookkeeping somehow.