Everyone wins. 

This is a win-win-win scenario.

You can then pick up Jay Hinrichs and Douglas Larson in your personal jet and take a few trips with the rich and famous and forget the TV show.

I would appreciate all suggestions on how to structure or what to offer her as a win-win situation.Shelley

If I give money to a flipper to buy at trustee's sale, he wins bid, tells trustee to title in his LLC, I get note and deed of trust from his LLC same day, I record deed of trust, he gets trustee's deed let's say 15 days later, he marches down to the county recorder and records trustee's deed, will my deed of trust that was recorded 15 days earlier attach and become a lien, or do I have to wait until the trustee's deed is recorded before recording my deed of trust?

In the event that you do try to sue him for damages and win, what money will he have to pay you?  

From what I read if i didn't win my 10k deposit would roll over to the October auction but since I did win will I need a new deposit?

Sounds like an all around win.  

Win win

Now, you're back to the judge and that "protected class" area and dealing with her competence, the heirs usually win if she doesn't appear in court.You haven't shown her problem as to why she wants to sell.