In the living room, I mounted my 50" tv on a very nice full motion wall mount.

Time to give yourself a break, acknowledge that the lady is older and needs help (like our mom or grandma would), and now is time to be tactful, understanding, ethical and put things in motion to get yourself out of this one. 

I also pay for common electric for outside motion-activated lights.

The lack of uniformity in regulations across states makes it difficult to create a standardized framework for the industry.

However, there is a PA rule of civil procedure that allows you to file a motion to attempt to divest the lien in this situation.

Motion sensor and other lights, all working.

Without perfecting you security interest by filing the deed of trust you have no collateral, that was drilled enough above.You don't sign anything on a deed of trust, you're the lender/beneficiary, only the borrower grants the security interest by executing the deed of trust.There is no reason for a lender to sign anywhere on a promissory note either, at least at its origination as the debt is created by the borrower, not the lender.I'd say your friend is really uniformed and trying to make things easy for you, keeping you out of the loop or, he may not be such a friend as what you have mentioned may not be enforceable under various circumstances.The other issue is that all note terms are not generally required on the deed of trust nor is the note filed.

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@Jonathan R McLaughlin I second this motion

Don't forewarn your stalker by using obvious video cameras.Get a motion-activated COVERT surveillance camera that contains its own power source and DVR.