The key is that you are the one with the cash and therefore, in a position of power.I forgot who said it, but he said "if you're not embarrassed by your offer, then you've offered too much."

another poster said that if he wasn't embarrassed by his offer he was paying too much.

Thanks Kyle, The sit. is embarrassing but I did not know about his judgements until afterward.

If you accepted a verbal move out notice from them - you need to document these things or you may find yourself in these types of embarrassing situations.

From one that speaks to people in foreclosure on regular basis, one repeating emotional trend I see is embarrassment---in general, folks in this position often act too late because they are embarrassed (pride is another good emotional anchor) with admitting failure...Although I don't market to these individuals, I understand the mindset all to well and believe any marketing campaign to these folks should include the following components:- Discretion/Privacy: Give them an opportunity to learn more without revealing themselves initially---offer a white paper or recorded info-message which would allow these distressed homeowners to learn without the need to speak to somebody. - Hope: Too many marketers are appealing to fear---although fear is a compelling emotional trigger, the majority of people don't want to be reminded what they will lose, they want to be reassured that there is a chance for recovery

Some will say that unless the offer makes you feel embarrassed when you submit it you are offering too much.You are taking on a big project.

I do not want to simply become a statistic, I want to learn from this experience (as painful and embarrassing as it may be).

Is everyone else just too embarrassed to admit it?

Usually however you don't want to advertise to the neighbors that you buy houses, many people are embarrassed that they have to call someone to bail them out of foreclosure or some similar situation.

If you are not embarrassed about the amount or terms you are offering, you are offering too much!)