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Does landlording need substantial people skills?
I am single bread earner in my family while my wife takes care of kids. Few years ago I started feeling there is a need to earn more to support our growing needs perhaps with a second job but that would take away my personal time with my family .I got inspired with my previous landlord who was house hacking with a multifamily, started researching BP and started devouring every resource that came my way and took a big leap of faith and invested in my first multifamily without getting stuck in an analysis paralysis mode upon analysing few deals.While I do like the passive income aspect of a multifamily, I am feeling it's more than second job as it consumes me so much more emotionally and taking me away from my family and I sometimes start feeling if I introduced a new problem to solve an existing problem with this multi-family investment.
I am generally a warmly friendly person but ever since I bought my first multi-family and started renting I feel like I have turned somewhat cold.
Homeownership especially owning a multi-family with tenants seems like a arduous and complex process involving complex human psychology.While analyzing the deal , making numbers work vetting the tenants etc is just one part of the equation.There is lot more to this game of real estate , I think one must be well versed with complex human emotions. One as a landlord wants to safeguard his property after making substantial investment and the tenant wants to get the best bang for his buck and this more often than not turns out into a cat and mouse game between the tenant and landlord. The landlord can't keep the tenant happy all the time while the tenant can't stop from breaking things. I don't even want to get started with the predisposed anxieties,complex egoes and capricious tendencies of a tenant.
A landlord in anticipation of tenant breaking things need to caution the tenant and that communication even when euphemistically put can turn out into a conflict with the tenant
Is it just me who feels that way? Should I start thinking about an exit plan?Perhaps people skills are not in my DNA or should I start reading Dale Carnegie?
I am curious how others handle such complex matters?as I have started to feel it's just not making the numbers work one also needs substantial people skills! Appreciate feedback from other members.
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OK. Well, some thoughts:
1. At the beginning it can feel that way. Until you have good systems in place everything feels like you're starting from scratch, every time. The key is to systematize everything you can so it reduces your decision fatigue and need to revisit every issue.
2. The class rental you invest will go a long way towards engaging/disengaging yourself from your tenants. If you rent out C or lower multi-family/trailers, you are going to interact with your tenants a lot more than if you were renting out B+ single-family homes. Generally, the greater the profit level, the more you're going to work for that money. C/D class are super-profitable for those who know how to work them (I'm thinking of you @James Wise and @Jim K.) but you're not going to be invisible.
3. If you're willing to part with some of that profit, you can turn everything over to a PM company and just manage the manager.
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